Success is defined differently by everyone. It could be getting out of bed in the morning to finally getting series A funding for a startup. Everyone defines it differently. But, according to Merriam Webster, success is defined as a “favorable or desired outcome.” So, in theory, success can mean something different to everyone, yet simultaneously mean the same thing.
After college, success was getting a good job, making money, having fun, and traveling. I did all of those things, and then like most people, I wanted more. I got a new job because I wanted more money, more flexibility, and to still have fun. But after the pandemic, success for me has shifted tremendously.
Money is always still a motivator, anyone who says that it’s not is either in denial, a liar, or still trying to figure out how the world works. But having fun has shifted from going out on Fridays and Saturdays, maybe even Thursdays and some occasional Wednesdays, to staying in with my wife and watching our favorite shows, reading books, playing games, and spending time together. Having PTO to go to concerts, long-weekends, and an occasional “rough morning” has since been traded for days off that include traveling, exploring different cities, golfing, and being around loved ones. Having a job that paid for me to travel to conferences, events, and other work related events was exceptional and amazing, but trading that for something that keeps me local and will allow me to see my twin boys every day will be priceless.
I was extremely fortunate to live out my 20s in style, but as I’ve gotten older, style is now out of style for me. I like coming home after work to my wife, to talk about each other’s day, play games, and cook together. Five years ago that would’ve been the most boring Wednesday I could think of. Now, I dream of nights like that and cherish them.
Success is finding not what you enjoy, but what you love. Sure, having money helps, but being able to spend it and enjoy it is what counts. What’s the good of working your entire life if you can never enjoy the wealth you’ve generated? I try to work based on the philosophy that the harder I work when I’m younger, the more I can enjoy it when I’m older. Being able to see my kids grow, being able to support my wife and her life ambitions, and spending time with friends and family is successful to me. Not how many cars I can fit in my driveway or being able to have the newest iPhone each new release.
Everyone says social media is such a detriment to society because it makes us feel depressed since we see things that we’ll never obtain. But, why? Why can’t we work hard for things to at least dream a little? Sure, we may never own our own private island with a yacht and 12 luxury cars, but maybe we can go on vacation some place similar. Everyone has their own dreams, aspirations, and visions of success. Never let anyone tell you differently and so long as you’re not harming yourself or others, keep doing what makes you happy and what you love.
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